I agree with this Helen Keller quote, “Life is short and unpredictable. Eat the dessert first.”
In my book, The LORI Factor: Live the Life You Were Born to Live, there is a chapter called, Lifestyle: Start Living Life on Your Terms.
Are you living life on your terms?
I know I wasn’t, until I made different decisions. As a result, I stopped letting life happen to me. I stopped allowing other people’s opinions become my reality.
I remember when somebody mentioned something my mother said. I said I hadn’t talked to my mother that day. He said I meant your mother’s voice that’s in your head. Whoa! He was right. I loved my mother, but many words she said were not the truth. A phrase I kept hearing from her was, “You can’t do that,” and “Your sister would be the one to write a book.” Hearing that repeatedly programmed me to believe it.
Note: Be careful who and what you believe, or you will be deceived.
Thankfully, I learned to tune into a higher voice of the One who taught me my voice matters and that I can do anything that I put my mind to, like writing books. Renewing my mind, changing, and upgrading my thoughts and words were the beginning of living life on my terms.
The Serenity Prayer says: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.
It does take courage.
These powerful words made a big difference, “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.” ~ Joshua 1:9 NLT
Focus on the things you can control. You can’t control the past. Be present. Get unstuck. Instead of resisting change, embrace it.
That doesn’t mean accepting everything being dictated around you. Stand up for what’s right. Unmask yourself. Let your voice be heard.
I used to feel invisible and was taught to be quiet and not to interrupt until I got a LARGER vision of myself beyond what people told me and beyond my circumstances. It’s time to speak up and let my voice be heard because you need to hear this message of hope, encouragement, and empowerment.
By the way, it’s not a coincidence that you are reading or hearing this right now. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD, “They are plans for good and not for disaster to give you a future and a hope.” ~ Jeremiah 29:11 NLT
Paint a picture in your mind of what your best life looks like. Hold that vision, write it down, and make it plain, as it says in the living Word of God in Habakkuk 2.
Keep it before your eyes.
When you can visualize the life you desire, it puts you in the driver’s seat. Visualization is a powerful tool. What do you love? Where are you? What are you doing? Who is with you? See it, hear it, taste it, smell it, and feel it.
Engage all your senses.
Be specific. Picture your dream vacation or dream car, for example. Soon your dreams become reality. Take action. I put myself in the driver’s seat on a boat recently. I have been writing more and getting articles published. I am a travel writer and am stepping into that lifestyle.
Start where you are. Take yourself places in your mind first. Do things in your own backyard that are local.
Explore. Take a road trip.
I live in the “gorges” Finger Lakes region where there are beautiful lakes, waterfalls, and parks. Watkins Glen is a must-see place. From Canandaigua to Ithaca NY, I got to experience accommodations, adventures, relaxation, and amazing food including:
Capt. Bill’s Dinner and Sunset Sightseeing Seneca Lake Cruise
Summit to Stream where I took out an ocean kayak on Seneca Lake
Keuka Watersports at Champlin Beach in a kayak on Keuka Lake
Bed & Breakfast at Oliver Phelps was the first B&B in Canandaigua
Rogues Harbor Inn is a lovely historical B&B near Cayuga Lake
Corner Pub at Rogues Harbor Inn has great food and service at the Inn
Ciao! Was had authentic Italian food with Tuscan flair and delicious dessert
Ithaca Massage Station was a relaxing, pampering experience
NaturLuxe & Stars is where I had my first glamping adventure in style
Jerlando’s Ristorante & Pizza Co. has salads, Italian food & more
Nickel Pit’s BBQ has tender, tasty barbeque with warm service
True Love where I swooned over the schooner and talked to the Captain
I made a decision. I found a way no matter what my bank account or circumstances looked like. No matter to those trying to set me up to fail or making assumptions. No more putting my life on the back burner and taking care of everyone except myself.
Commit to your goals and dreams. Create your life by design. Writing, speaking, wealth, wellness, travel, and more are possible. Get on the road, on the plane, or on the boat to wherever you desire to go.
Eat the dessert first.
Can you see the person you are meant to be? Take the Journey to Hope and Transformation (which I talk about in my first book).
Get my book, The LORI Factor: Live the Life You Were Born to Live, for more ideas on how to live life on your terms.
Tell me the actions you took. The first action was you read this blog. Thank you and congratulations. What spoke to you the most?
Let’s celebrate each step together. Let me know how I can help. Choose life and live life to the fullest.
Do you feel like you’re in too deep? Overwhelm and procrastination can keep you stuck and scattered. I know saying goodbye makes me cry. There is loss but you can turn it into a gain and treasure the moments you shared with people and places. You may feel lost while you watch others succeed. You are happy for them. For you, maybe you see no way out. What’s happening in your life that feels heavy and looks impossible to handle?
Peace and Love,
