The Flight Back Home Connected To A Suicide Story

November 12, 2022 by Lori Leave a Comment

Flight connecting a suicide story — The Flight that Connected a Suicide Story

Flight Connection

It was time to depart. I boarded the airplane. A delightful woman sat next to me on my flight back home. She shared her bag of blue chips with me. She also shared that her daughter committed suicide. It was then that I knew this was a divine appointment.

I listened to her story. I felt led to share my experience, hoping she would find comfort and a connection with me.

It’s easier to stay silent and not share, especially on the topic of suicide. This conversation prompted me to speak up. I wrote a book called The LORI Factor that is meant to help others. However, I have not shared enough about it.

Suicide Story

It took courage to write that book, especially telling how there was a time I attempted suicide. I am thankful I am alive to change and save lives with my message. This book is not just about my story; it’s about giving you hope and making a difference.

Too many people believe lies about themselves and feel unworthy and hopeless. Some get blinded by the pain and make a permanent decision to a temporary problem. If that’s you or someone you know, you landed on this blog for a reason. You are meant to be here.

We all need support and encouragement. I learned that the woman who chose to sit next to me on that flight created support services for those who have lost a loved one to suicide. We are both on a similar mission.

Especially this time of year, during the holiday season, suicide rates increase. I know my life was spared so I can help people choose life not death.

Message of Hope

Let me show you how to have a Larger vision of yourself beyond your circumstances. That is what the “L” stands for in The LORI Factor book.

There is light past the darkness. Take flight and soar. You are meant for more. Take a deep breath. Hang on. There is hope. Have faith in the now.

Be present. That is the best gift for yourself and everyone else.

I am grateful that I get to guide those on how to choose life and live the life they were born to live.

Feel free to reach out to me. Let me know how I can serve you and add value to your life.

Are you looking for a guest on your podcast or radio show? I would be delighted to be your guest.

Read my book or give it as a gift. You can get it here.

Much love,

Lori

Lori’s Story of a Snail

September 21, 2021 by Lori Leave a Comment

Hey Snail, what’s your story?

What made you show up at my house?

Do you have a message for me?

What can I tell from your attractive spiral shell?

Could it be that I am going in circles?

Am I going too slowly?

A snail’s pace is often an accusation of laziness.

But, what if, it’s a sign to slow down and rest?

You are a gentle creature who comes in peace.

Wherever you go, you are at home.

How do I know? Because you carry your home with you.

You make your own trail and travel at your own pace.

You bring a message of patience and I’m right on time.

No need to get caught up in the ways of harried humans.

I’ll take a clue from you and will not participate in the pressure.

What else may I glean from your visit? Ah, it’s time to pivot.

Look at potential dangers and what’s not working.

With a shell of safety and protection, explore a new direction.

You appeared to me so that I could see your mobility.

I stopped to observe and consider other possibilities.

I ask myself what are my undiscovered talents and abilities?

Speed is not the key to success.

Your colorful, spiral shell reminds me to cherish each season.

Life is fragile. I am here for a reason.

Thank you, Snail, for crossing my path when I have much to handle.

You showed me your mobile home, and how to survive alone.

There is a time to be still and a time to move, help me find my groove.

ARE YOU ENGAGED? RING, RING!

April 12, 2021 by Lori 1 Comment

Did you think I meant engaged to be married? If that’s you, congratulations, you gave or received the ring. Today, I am talking about are you engaged in life?

Engaged or empty? Life is not for the faint-hearted. It can cause you to faint and want to give up. Some say keep pushing and grinding. That works for some people but for others it can literally make them sick, weak, and weary. It could be because when you give and give and give but never give to yourself, you come to a place of emptiness and no energy.

Fulfill your own needs before you fill the needs of others. Fill your cup first and serve others from the overflow. Otherwise, your cup will run dry. When your cup is dry, you thirst.

Without water, you get weak. All dried up with nothing to give leads to giving up and feeling hopeless. Maybe you no longer have the strength to fill your cup. What gives you strength? What rings true for you? Create your own bling and make your heart sing again.

One drop, just one drop can keep you going. Drink that one drop before you plop and pass out. Turn on the faucet and let the water flow. Replenish your supply.

Refresh your body and your mind and soul. You will awaken with new ideas and better ways to live a life that fulfills you. Your phone will ring because you found what excites you and rings your bell.

No more staying in bed. No more dragging yourself through each day. No more staying buried in bills and anything that is weighing you down. Take one more sip, one more step, and know your best days are ahead.

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them” -Maya Angelou

Ask for help if doing it all yourself is too much. Often you don’t know where to get help or who to ask. Keep seeking. The help will come when you least expect it even if it hasn’t shown up yet.

It may look impossible right now. You may be waiting on promises that were made. You may be waiting on income you thought was on its way. It can seem daunting. The debts are a mountain that look insurmountable. Maybe you question whether or not you should pursue and stay the path that once was a clear direction.

I don’t know. All I know is focus on what brings you joy. Live in the moment. See yourself digging out of where you are now even if you don’t know how. Take time to pamper yourself. Have a date with yourself. Soak in the tub. Go sit by some water. Engage in activities that will spark happiness. Fill up your cup, raise your glass and toast yourself: “Cheers to you.”

You are alive and breathing. You’ve come this far. Keep going. There is more for you to do. Be excited. Even if you don’t know what that looks like, it’s okay. Trust the process. Take one day at a time, or one minute at a time, if one day is too much right now.

Look at a man the way he is and he only becomes worse, but look at him as if he were what he could be, then he becomes what he should be. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Look at yourself the way you could be. You can become that person. Don’t give up on yourself or your dreams.

Rest, read, write, pray. Everything will be okay. Stay engaged. Engage with me about your struggles, your story, your successes. Send me a message. I care. We will survive. We will thrive somehow, some way.

The Power of FOCUS

March 8, 2021 by Lori Leave a Comment

You get what you focus on. You’ve heard that advice, right?

It reminds us that, to begin living the life we really want, we have to start doing those things that will get us there.

There was a time my life was extremely out of balance. All I could see were my struggles and didn’t have any solutions. It kept me stuck. Focusing on the struggles kept me in a state of hopelessness and defeat. I had to stand up inside myself and be determined to find a better way. I knew the life I was living wasn’t meant for me. I took one step and then another and kept going. Sometimes I fell back and then I got back up and didn’t give up on myself, my dreams, and the life I truly desire.

Maybe you’re not where you want to be yet, but at least we are not where we used to be. It’s never too late to live the life you were born to live. The good news is you don’t have to figure it out and do it all on your own.

Now I am a Certified Oola Life Coach. I help clients determine what’s not working for them in the areas of fitness, finance, field (career), family, faith, friends and fun – then correct those stressors and bring about the lifestyle, relationships and financial security they need to be happy, balanced and growing.

So what could the OolaLife look like for you?

I’m challenging you to decide, then focus on getting this life you really want.

Let’s Get Started: Decide What You Want

Have you ever thought about the lifestyle, activities, wealth, longevity, family relationships and other parts of a fantastic life that YOU want?

If you haven’t, that’s the first place to start. Why? Because in order to get what you want, you have to KNOW what you want. If you’re going to focus your time and energy, it’s got to be awesome and a major life improvement for you. For instance, do you want to . . .

Fitness: Be date-night ready with tons of energy?

Finance: Eliminate all debt and have money to spare?

Family: Have a rockin’ good marriage + amazing kids, too?

Field: Find a dream job or start a business you love?

Faith: Start an exciting new faith-based project?

Friends: Find new friends and mentors who believe in you?

Fun: Crush those bucket-list adventures you’ve dreamed of?

Whatever inspires you, why not share it below? (But hey, don’t reveal super-personal details!)

To help you achieve your own OolaLife, I’ve joined forces with Dave and Troy – The OolaGuys – to privately coach you and support you via a TRANSFORMATION Program designed to transform your life, your finances, your relationships and more. Click here to get started. I am glad I took my first step on the journey to transformation. You will be glad you did too. I believe in you and want to see you win.

Much Love,

Lori

Lori Bruton
Author, Speaker, Coach,
Copywriter

6 SOLUTIONS FOR WHEN URGENT MATTERS KNOCK YOU DOWN

February 20, 2021 by Lori Leave a Comment

At any moment, urgent matters may arise. Immediate action is required. It can throw you into emotional turmoil. You may feel like life is spinning out of control. Or…

You can put your own spin on it. Choose to transform urgent matters into living life with urgency. Allow those challenges to awaken a new way and a new you.

Imagine what it looks like beyond what’s happening now. See yourself conquering every challenge. What does it feel like to get to the other side and find a way to achieve your goals and dreams?

Sometimes stress and change can knock you down, but don’t let it knock you out. Like Les Brown says, “When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up.”

Your situation may seem impossible, but God has a comeback for every setback and a new beginning for every ending. –Oola

Do you feel like you’re in too deep? Overwhelm and procrastination can keep you stuck and scattered. I know saying goodbye makes me cry. There is loss but you can turn it into a gain and treasure the moments you shared with people and places. You may feel lost while you watch others succeed. You are happy for them. For you, maybe you see no way out. What’s happening in your life that feels heavy and looks impossible to handle?

Here, with me, you won’t get beaten down. This is a safe place. Has anyone ever said to you: “You’re not special,” Or “It could be worse,” Or “You’re not tough enough,” or “You can’t do that;” Really? I don’t know about you, but those words tend to be critical and discouraging not understanding and encouraging.

Let me encourage you and help you get back up with these 6 solutions:

U = UNDERSTAND. Understand there are unprecedented times and that whatever has happened may be new to you; you’ve never experienced it before. It’s a big adjustment. You don’t have to conform but instead transform. Disregard people who compare or make it seem insignificant. It’s significant to you. As I write this, we are living in unprecedented times. Then when you add your personal circumstances it compounds. Breathe. First, just breathe. Be present in the moment. You don’t have to figure it all out right now. If one day at a time seems too much, break it down to one minute at a time. Everyone has a different pace. Honor your own pace and don’t feel pressured by anyone else. Know that you are greater than your circumstances.
R = REST & REFLECT. Break. Take a break. Did you think I meant breakdown? That’s okay too. Shedding tears is cleansing. It’s healthy. Keeping everything inside can be toxic. Handling urgent matters may mean letting go and taking a break from other things for now, even a job. Ask yourself, “What’s most important right now?” Will you wish you worked more when you look back? Not likely. Take time to take care of you. There may be more going on than just emotions. Maybe you need to take a nap, soak in the tub, and eat good food to refuel and refresh.
G = GIFTS. Believe. Accept the change and believe it will be okay. Get a new perspective and see the gifts this urgent matter brings. You may experience a wave of emotions and face challenges. Ride the wave. It’s okay. God promises to work everything together for good. Be grateful for the gifts.
E = EVALUATE. Assess the situation. Explore new possibilities. What can you do to move forward? Where do you want to be? What do you want to be doing? Who do you want to do it with? Picture it in your mind. You don’t have to let any situation “infect” you and keep you feeling stuck, sad, and hopeless. Allow this new thing to “affect” you and transform you into having a better life. You get to choose. Are you living for other people and not living the life you were born to live? You were made for more.
N = NECESSARY. It’s necessary that you work on yourself and develop yourself despite disappointments and setbacks. It’s necessary to surround yourself with quality people who believe in you and lift you higher. Remember, when things go wrong, don’t go with them as Les Brown would say. Not just when things go wrong, but when major change happens give yourself grace to shift into a new gear, adjust your sails, enjoy the new journey.
T = TRUST. Trust the process. No matter how it looks now, know the best is just ahead. Take a risk. You don’t need to grab the next branch before letting go of the one you’re holding onto now. Don’t let yourself get buried alive. Don’t let your dreams die. Do a new thing that makes your heart sing.

There you go. Implement these 6 steps and live life with urgency. No more procrastination, settling, or giving up on your dream and the life you were born to live. No more putting off the passion that burns inside you. Maybe it’s writing a book, traveling, starting a business, speaking, creating a new invention, or moving to a different area. What is it for you?

I have a better understanding of it’s hard but worth it. You’ll be okay. Get excited and embrace new adventures. We can evaluate together if you like. We are created for a purpose. Let’s explore where you are now and where you want to be so you can get more out of your life.

Text URGENT to this text only number: 844-394-4798.

Peace and Love,

Lori

Creator of The LORI Factor, Author, Speaker &

Certified Oola Life Coach

It’s Time for a New Season

October 1, 2020 by Lori Leave a Comment

Some of us are still in lockdown. Some are on the frontlines. This plague has infected us all in different ways. First, let me send my heartfelt condolences to those of you who have lost loved ones.

The suicide rates and domestic violence rates have skyrocketed during this pandemic. People are in panic and some have lost hope. Fear and stress are making people sick more than COVID-19. Lost wages and work in many cases caused devastation.

It’s now October 2020. A new season is here. Have you found a way to survive or do you feel like you are drowning with no way out? Or, are you thriving? Did this pandemic give you a new perspective on life and new opportunities?

I know gratitude and being thankful, especially in the midst of this storm, helps us ride the wave and rise up. Maybe before, you wished you could spend more time with your kids and your spouse. Your wish came true. Hopefully, you came to appreciate each other more and love grew deeper. If you are alone, did loneliness swallow you up or did you get to know yourself better and be your own best friend?

It has been a time to connect in a different way, that’s for sure. Remember that we were all created for a purpose. What is it that you are truly called to do? Les Brown said, “A job is what we get paid for; a calling is what we are made for.”

Here is what I know, there is no normal or “new normal”. This is a permanent shift into a new world. Believers know we are in the world but not of the world. What’s stirring in your heart that you are passionate about? Feel that; do that.

Move with a sense of urgency. Do what you came to do. Seek the face of God. Some are seeking enlightenment. That won’t get you there. Jesus said, “I Am the Light of the world, the Truth shall make you free.” And, He said: “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me.”

We can be easily deceived. I was. There are so many beliefs that seem the same. Or, even worse for me was when I let go of God and found myself drunk under a truck in a church parking lot. What state of mind was I in when I did that? Yikes! All I know is that Lori is gone. She is dead. I am a new creature. I know I am here today to speak life into you. You have greatness in you. You are a masterpiece, because you are a piece of the Master. Ask Him yourself. I am not here to convince or condemn or judge. I am here to encourage you and share my experience and my journey. Why? Because maybe you can remember a time in your life where you did things you were not proud of and wondered who you were then. Maybe you want to transform your life and know your purpose.

It’s okay. Forgive yourself. Get back up. Awaken the real you and discover what you are here to do. Whatever that is, remember it’s not just for your own fulfillment and happiness, it’s to change lives, make a difference, and leave a legacy.

Do you know how many times I wanted to give up on my dreams and give up on life? Those thoughts and feelings come from the enemy who comes to kill, steal, and destroy. No! Rise up and claim your victory! God’s got your back. He will never leave you or forsake you, if you let him into your heart. Make the choice now. Vote for the One True God. Your life and future depends on it.

We all have a story and a message. It matters. I would love to speak and tell my story to more people on more platforms even virtually for now. Message me or text: 844-394-4798

Get the juicy details of my story in my book: Hole To Whole: Journey To Hope And Transformation

Stay in peace and love. Be grateful and have faith.