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6 SOLUTIONS FOR WHEN URGENT MATTERS KNOCK YOU DOWN

February 20, 2021 by Lori Leave a Comment

At any moment, urgent matters may arise. Immediate action is required. It can throw you into emotional turmoil. You may feel like life is spinning out of control. Or…

You can put your own spin on it. Choose to transform urgent matters into living life with urgency. Allow those challenges to awaken a new way and a new you.

Imagine what it looks like beyond what’s happening now. See yourself conquering every challenge. What does it feel like to get to the other side and find a way to achieve your goals and dreams?

Sometimes stress and change can knock you down, but don’t let it knock you out. Like Les Brown says, “When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up.”

Your situation may seem impossible, but God has a comeback for every setback and a new beginning for every ending. –Oola

Do you feel like you’re in too deep? Overwhelm and procrastination can keep you stuck and scattered. I know saying goodbye makes me cry. There is loss but you can turn it into a gain and treasure the moments you shared with people and places. You may feel lost while you watch others succeed. You are happy for them. For you, maybe you see no way out. What’s happening in your life that feels heavy and looks impossible to handle?

Here, with me, you won’t get beaten down. This is a safe place. Has anyone ever said to you: “You’re not special,” Or “It could be worse,” Or “You’re not tough enough,” or “You can’t do that;” Really? I don’t know about you, but those words tend to be critical and discouraging not understanding and encouraging.

Let me encourage you and help you get back up with these 6 solutions:

U = UNDERSTAND. Understand there are unprecedented times and that whatever has happened may be new to you; you’ve never experienced it before. It’s a big adjustment. You don’t have to conform but instead transform. Disregard people who compare or make it seem insignificant. It’s significant to you. As I write this, we are living in unprecedented times. Then when you add your personal circumstances it compounds. Breathe. First, just breathe. Be present in the moment. You don’t have to figure it all out right now. If one day at a time seems too much, break it down to one minute at a time. Everyone has a different pace. Honor your own pace and don’t feel pressured by anyone else. Know that you are greater than your circumstances.
R = REST & REFLECT. Break. Take a break. Did you think I meant breakdown? That’s okay too. Shedding tears is cleansing. It’s healthy. Keeping everything inside can be toxic. Handling urgent matters may mean letting go and taking a break from other things for now, even a job. Ask yourself, “What’s most important right now?” Will you wish you worked more when you look back? Not likely. Take time to take care of you. There may be more going on than just emotions. Maybe you need to take a nap, soak in the tub, and eat good food to refuel and refresh.
G = GIFTS. Believe. Accept the change and believe it will be okay. Get a new perspective and see the gifts this urgent matter brings. You may experience a wave of emotions and face challenges. Ride the wave. It’s okay. God promises to work everything together for good. Be grateful for the gifts.
E = EVALUATE. Assess the situation. Explore new possibilities. What can you do to move forward? Where do you want to be? What do you want to be doing? Who do you want to do it with? Picture it in your mind. You don’t have to let any situation “infect” you and keep you feeling stuck, sad, and hopeless. Allow this new thing to “affect” you and transform you into having a better life. You get to choose. Are you living for other people and not living the life you were born to live? You were made for more.
N = NECESSARY. It’s necessary that you work on yourself and develop yourself despite disappointments and setbacks. It’s necessary to surround yourself with quality people who believe in you and lift you higher. Remember, when things go wrong, don’t go with them as Les Brown would say. Not just when things go wrong, but when major change happens give yourself grace to shift into a new gear, adjust your sails, enjoy the new journey.
T = TRUST. Trust the process. No matter how it looks now, know the best is just ahead. Take a risk. You don’t need to grab the next branch before letting go of the one you’re holding onto now. Don’t let yourself get buried alive. Don’t let your dreams die. Do a new thing that makes your heart sing.

There you go. Implement these 6 steps and live life with urgency. No more procrastination, settling, or giving up on your dream and the life you were born to live. No more putting off the passion that burns inside you. Maybe it’s writing a book, traveling, starting a business, speaking, creating a new invention, or moving to a different area. What is it for you?

I have a better understanding of it’s hard but worth it. You’ll be okay. Get excited and embrace new adventures. We can evaluate together if you like. We are created for a purpose. Let’s explore where you are now and where you want to be so you can get more out of your life.

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Peace and Love,

Lori

Creator of The LORI Factor, Author, Speaker &

Certified Oola Life Coach

THE ONE TRUE LOVE

February 14, 2020 by Lori Leave a Comment

As I write this, many of you are celebrating Valentine’s Day with your true love. Others may be in a toxic relationship or have let go of one. Let me talk to you about the most toxic relationship of all.

Has your heart been broken? Did someone make promises and say they loved you and you were the only one for them? When we hear those words, we want to believe they are true. Sadly, there are many who will only play with your emotions and infect your heart. Their motives are not pure. Yes, it hurts DEEPLY.

What if the closest toxic relationship is staring you right in your face? It’s the one you see when you look in the mirror. Who do you see? YOU. You see you. Are you “The One” having a toxic relationship with yourself?

Fear, self-sabotage, and self-hatred may be your blockers. Let’s look at those a bit closer. Fear blocks love. I don’t just mean sharing your life with your true love. First, what are your fears? Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of not enough finances, fear of loneliness, fear you will never be enough? Identify it and know that fear can be overcome or at least learn to do things afraid.

I don’t know about you, but this is a verse I relate to often: Romans 7:15, “I don’t understand why I act the way I do. I don’t do what I know is right. I do the things I hate.” That brings me to self-sabotage. We allow criticisms and judgments from others and ourselves to us hold back, procrastinate, and not believe we can live the life we are designed to live.

It’s possible that fear and desperation cause you to make decisions that do not line up with what’s best for you. Les Brown said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”

What about love? Proverbs 19:22 says, “What a person desires is unfailing love.” Do you feel unloved or unlovable? Look to The One who loved you first. The One who designed you for greatness. The One who will never leave you or forsake you. The One who will never abandon you. The One who died for you and rose again to give you life.

He speaks to you in Song of Solomon, Chapter 4, saying, “Invite me, and I come. I stay until dawn breathes its light and night slips away. You’re beautiful from head to toe, my dear love, beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless.”

Let Him embrace you and love you. Then, you will learn to love yourself and love others.

Who is The One? His name is above all names – Jesus.

Do you need guidance in getting more love and balance in your life? It would be my pleasure to help you. Message me and check out this option. http://bit.ly/liveoola

Much Love,

Lori

WHAT’S YOUR DREAM?

March 12, 2019 by Lori 4 Comments

What’s your dream? Is it to write a book, be an artist, a musician, dance, travel, be in a movie, speak on stage, or something else? Tell me. I want to know. Whatever it is, do you believe your dream can come true?

Belief and knowing it’s possible is an important first step. Can you see it like it’s already happened? I’m excited to hear about your vision. Paint me the picture so I can see it with you. Let me know more about you and what’s going on in your life.

When you were a child what did you enjoy doing? Remembering those things may give you clues about your dreams and passions if you don’t already know.

One of my favorite things is writing. I have discovered that many people dream of writing their own book. Most of them have not, because they don’t have time or think they have to be a good writer or some other reason. There is always a way to make it happen. Everyone has a story to tell.

Helping you go from where you are to where you desire to be is my specialty. Maybe it is writing a book. People write books for many reasons. Maybe it’s to leave a legacy, share a message, or the accomplishment of attaining the title of “author”. Telling your story can also be your own healing journey or a way to record your personal history. No matter the reason, if it’s your dream, DO IT. Don’t let anyone stop you or cause you to doubt, especially if the person stopping you is YOU.

Time is of the essence. Make your dream happen now. Let me help guide your way. As my mother used to say: “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.”

Speaking of HELP, may I ask for your help? Please let me know what topics are of interest to you that I can blog about. Also, your feedback about my book is appreciated. Right now it is on pre-sale with a description. Let me know if it intrigues you, why, and if you would read it. If it’s not for you, do you know who would benefit from reading my book?

Leave me a comment. It’s your time to make big things happen!

DO YOU FEEL THREATENED?

February 22, 2019 by Lori Leave a Comment

As I write this, many emotions emerge. I recently got off a call with a group of people I believe I was destined to meet. I am excited to see where this journey takes me.

Every task and direction given to me, I have done and delivered with excellence ahead of schedule. It’s important to me to follow through, follow up, and stay connected. What if other parties do not respond or return messages, especially when they did initially? What if you are hired to do a project, but the person who hired you keeps blowing off your messages and questions? I know people are “busy”. (Don’t get me started on that word–It says, “You’re not important enough for my time.”)

How can I continue to complete projects, especially for others, if they are not as committed as I am? I step back and do my best to see what may be going on at their end. Still, no matter what, COMMUNICATION is key and in a timely manner. Knowing that you have that person’s FULL ATTENTION and that they are actively LISTENING shows honor, respect, and interest. People want to know they are important, and that you truly care, right? No longer will I tolerate putting myself last, because I think everyone else is more important. My time is valuable too. It is a pleasure to work with people who treat me well; be assured that I will give the same courtesy.

Talk is cheap; ACTION (or lack of) tells the real story. Unexpected stuff happens to everyone. Just communicate when it does or at least assign someone to relay the message. Be honest; be authentic. It’s okay. Most of us, at some time, have bitten off more than we can handle and made promises we can’t keep. Be real; just say so. Don’t keep me guessing; take time to respond. I would rather know if anything has changed than to have unrealistic expectations, wouldn’t you?

Maybe $100 or $500 or even $20 is a big investment for some and only pocket change for others. The fact that you made that investment and trusted certain people was a HUGE risk for you. Recently, I had an unexpected medical and financial situation that was a game changer. Despite everything, I keep making investments and taking risks. Many of those risks almost put me under. Have you ever been there? Feeling like you keep getting sucked dry only to be mocked or called crazy. Even worse, feeling devalued when threatened to be “disowned” if you don’t have the investment required and never to be allowed into that circle again. Wow, that hurts!!

Know the difference between excuses and people who are giving it their all and doing their part to find a way. Hopefully, their finding a way and digging a deeper HOLE prevents them from being homeless versus truly achieving success. Take time to hear their situation. They are counting on you, because you promised to be there. They put their TRUST and BELIEF in you. You have seen their efforts and accomplishments, don’t just laugh it off and take it for granted.

There are people who use and take advantage of people, but most people DO have good intentions who truly help people succeed. When we break promises or fall short, step up, admit it. Lead by example. Again, we all strive to lead by example. None of us is perfect. I disappoint myself many times. Let’s not disappoint each other. But when we do, forgiveness and understanding go a long way. Know who really is there for you and who isn’t. Don’t pretend. Find the circle who supports and encourages you and helps you reach your destiny. Remember, what you know and the life you live may be foreign to new people in your circle. Have mercy and patience. What comes easy to you, isn’t easy for everyone. Build them up and teach them how to rise up and help them when they fall; you will be appreciated and rewarded for doing so.

There have been too many people I trusted and who made promises; it didn’t end well. When similar patterns emerge, it causes me to pause and evaluate if I am in the right circles as I move forward. Time and actions will reveal the truth. I am committed to doing my part.

Thank you, Dani Johnson, who taught me, “Nothing becomes dynamic until it becomes SPECIFIC.” For example, “Honey, when do you want to start a family?” OR “When can you fix the sink?” OR “When will we schedule our next call?” If your answer is, “SOMEDAY” or “SOON” those answers are NOT specific.

Is having INTEGRITY important to you? We all fall out of integrity at times. Then what do you do? Own up to it, apologize, and get back into integrity with yourself and others. Is “image” or good character more important? Some people use arrogance or ego as a cover. It reminds me of a man who was often late on purpose to show how important he thought he was so that people should be thankful to get time with him. Really?

My grandpa always said, “Don’t think you are better than anyone, but know you are just as important.” Be humble, and respect everyone’s time no matter who you are, from peasant to king. When people commit to a time to connect, all parties are expected to show up. Sure, there are glitches and delays and unexpected things that happen; that’s life. Just communicate that information so you don’t leave people hanging.

Have you been “ghosted”? What is that? Ghosting is breaking off a relationship (often an intimate relationship) by ceasing all communication and contact with the former partner without any apparent warning or justification, as well as ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out or communicate.

Ghosting can happen in business too or friendships. One day you are communicating regularly, and everything is great. Then, poof, it ceases. What happened? You may never know. If it was an intimate relationship, maybe they ran off and got married even if they said you’d always be best friends. In business, maybe a richer client came along. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t value you. Even if it seems like some people put you on the back burner or cut you off, don’t give up on yourself or your dream. Shake the dust off your feet and keep it movin’.