I get it. You are doing everything yourself. You know you’re overwhelmed. You need help, but you may not think anyone else can do it all as good as you can.
You think you have all the control by keeping it all in your hands. You think every detail must be perfect every time.
What result are you getting by doing it all yourself? This is the picture I see. You strive to accomplish all your goals and build your business while you keep working your job, taking care of your home and family and more. It’s all too much. You are burned out and stressed out. You push yourself. You’re not eating right (if at all) and you’re hardly sleeping. You are running on empty.
Your life is so out of balance that all your plates are crashing to the floor. Have you ever seen the circus guy spinning all those plates?
Is that what you want your life to look like? What if I could provide a better way?
Let’s dive deeper into each of the 7 ways to lighten your load.
- Start with your mindset and perceptions.
- Know that perfection is an illusion.
- Holding onto control results in losing control.
- Make a decision.
- Make a list.
- Identify the type of people you need and get referrals.
- Hire a coach and/or a virtual assistant or whomever has the right skillset to fill your needs and lighten your load and bring your life into better balance.
1) Start with your mindset and perceptions.
We are our own worst critic. You recorded a video and end up holding onto to it or deleting it because it’s not “perfect” or whatever you perceive is perfect. Remember, it’s not about you, it’s who needs your help. You are robbing the people you could be helping by not sending that video, not writing that blog or book, not giving that speech, or not sharing your products and services. How do I know? I almost gave up on writing my books and thinking I wasn’t a good enough writer, speaker, coach, and teacher.
I kept going when I saw how my services and content were truly making a difference in many lives, even saving lives. Yours will too.
2) Know that perfection is an illusion.
What is perfection anyway? Most would agree it means without flaws or defects. Life in general has plenty of flaws and defects, especially we humans. It’s those flaws that show our authenticity. It lets people know you’re real and not afraid to take risks and make mistakes. Of course, you do all you can to make it your best. But when you strive for perfection, think about how much more time is being stolen from you. Embrace who you are, flaws and all. See how letting go of the illusion of perfection frees up your time, gives you peace, and brings amazing people into your life.
3) Holding onto control results in losing control.
When we hold onto control, we think we keep the power. Resistance is the enemy within. Resistance has power over us. It rears its ugly head whenever we set out to better ourselves and others. Especially with personal and entrepreneurial endeavors, resistance wants to win so that you don’t. It keeps you distracted. It wants you to give up. When you release control, watch how things will flow. You will breathe easier and feel more relaxed.
4) Make a decision.
You are no longer stuck in the illusion of perfection. Good job! You are releasing and no longer resisting. Excellent! Now it’s time to make a decision and give permission to allow others to help you. You are unique but that doesn’t mean other people can’t do work that will please you. Stay in your lane and let the ones who have the skills you don’t or the skills that are similar and will complement yours come alongside, lighten your load, and produce amazing results.
5) Make a list.
Grab a pen and paper or your computer. Write down all the tasks and projects you are doing now. Include business and personal.
I know a colleague who brought in help to clean her house and care for her children while she worked on her business. That gave her focus and productivity, and she didn’t have to face a sink full of dishes. That’s a win if you ask me.
List what you are getting done and what needs to get done. List what you enjoy doing and what you don’t. Delegate what you don’t enjoy or don’t have the skillset to do. Make a wish list of the whole picture and what it looks like when everything is in place and running smoothly. Do what you do best and delegate the rest. Speakers speak and writers write.
What are the pieces someone else can do for you? Maybe it’s social media posting, blog writing, repurposing videos and audios to use as social media content. You may need email or calendar management or someone to make calls or do bookkeeping for you. What about technical needs, such as website and webinar support? For domestic needs consider a nanny or housekeeper.
6) Identify the type of people you need and get referrals.
You made a decision. You made a list. Look how much progress you made so far. Prioritize your immediate needs. Identify the type of people who can support you. Assistance comes in many forms personally and professionally. Ask around and get referrals.
7) Hire a coach and/or a virtual assistant or whomever has the right skillset to fill your needs and lighten your load and bring your life into better balance.
If you didn’t know what to put on your list, hire a coach to evaluate where you are, where you want to be, and help clarify how to get there. This may sound like it’s costing you more time and money. In the long run, it will save you time and money. Find a way to fund your immediate needs. The tasks you are not getting done, get help or be okay with those not getting done. Your revenue will grow. You will have overflow. Right now, it may seem daunting and overwhelming. There is a better way. One step at a time and readjust as needed.
Now that you know how to be helped, how can I lighten your load? Let’s have a conversation and discover what I can provide or who I can refer you to. Text “HELP” to my text only number: 844-394-4798 or go here: https://loribruton.com/contact/.
Here’s to your success, lighter load, more balance and living a life you love.
Did you think I meant engaged to be married? If that’s you, congratulations, you gave or received the ring. Today, I am talking about are you engaged in life?
Engaged or empty? Life is not for the faint-hearted. It can cause you to faint and want to give up. Some say keep pushing and grinding. That works for some people but for others it can literally make them sick, weak, and weary. It could be because when you give and give and give but never give to yourself, you come to a place of emptiness and no energy.
Fulfill your own needs before you fill the needs of others. Fill your cup first and serve others from the overflow. Otherwise, your cup will run dry. When your cup is dry, you thirst.
Without water, you get weak. All dried up with nothing to give leads to giving up and feeling hopeless. Maybe you no longer have the strength to fill your cup. What gives you strength? What rings true for you? Create your own bling and make your heart sing again.
One drop, just one drop can keep you going. Drink that one drop before you plop and pass out. Turn on the faucet and let the water flow. Replenish your supply.
Refresh your body and your mind and soul. You will awaken with new ideas and better ways to live a life that fulfills you. Your phone will ring because you found what excites you and rings your bell.
No more staying in bed. No more dragging yourself through each day. No more staying buried in bills and anything that is weighing you down. Take one more sip, one more step, and know your best days are ahead.
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them” -Maya Angelou
Ask for help if doing it all yourself is too much. Often you don’t know where to get help or who to ask. Keep seeking. The help will come when you least expect it even if it hasn’t shown up yet.
It may look impossible right now. You may be waiting on promises that were made. You may be waiting on income you thought was on its way. It can seem daunting. The debts are a mountain that look insurmountable. Maybe you question whether or not you should pursue and stay the path that once was a clear direction.
I don’t know. All I know is focus on what brings you joy. Live in the moment. See yourself digging out of where you are now even if you don’t know how. Take time to pamper yourself. Have a date with yourself. Soak in the tub. Go sit by some water. Engage in activities that will spark happiness. Fill up your cup, raise your glass and toast yourself: “Cheers to you.”
You are alive and breathing. You’ve come this far. Keep going. There is more for you to do. Be excited. Even if you don’t know what that looks like, it’s okay. Trust the process. Take one day at a time, or one minute at a time, if one day is too much right now.
Look at a man the way he is and he only becomes worse, but look at him as if he were what he could be, then he becomes what he should be. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Look at yourself the way you could be. You can become that person. Don’t give up on yourself or your dreams.
Rest, read, write, pray. Everything will be okay. Stay engaged. Engage with me about your struggles, your story, your successes. Send me a message. I care. We will survive. We will thrive somehow, some way.
You are in the middle of a task when a question pops into your mind. There is an urgent need to know the answer at that moment. That’s when you immediately search the answer typically on your phone or computer to learn, discover, or buy something.
What you just experienced is a micro-moment. Maybe you want information about a product or a person; you go online. Quick online searching for personal and business information is a frequent occurrence nowadays.
Micro-moments are beneficial. The content and answers are at your fingertips. Enter key words in an online search engine and poof, there you go.
Imagine if your business was being searched by potential customers and clients. You can become the go-to place for the information, products, and services they need.
Give the people what they want. Once they find you, keep them engaged. How? Provide ongoing, up-to-date content. This can take you to the next level.
Question: Did I hear you say you don’t have time to create more content?
Answer: Outsource a copywriter.
Delegating this task frees up your time to do what you do best. It’s worth the investment. You will profit and serve many overall when you look at the big picture.
There are many excellent freelance copywriters available to fill your need. Take a micro-moment and search for a writer who will create content on your topic.
Better yet, I could be your answer. I provide copywriting services. Let’s discover if I am the one for you.
Thanks for reading. Was this helpful? Leave a comment and then go back to whatever you were doing.
What day came to mind for you? Was it when the world was locked down due to the pandemic?
Consider this significant day instead, Resurrection Day. People die every day due to a variety of situations and sicknesses.
There is hope. You don’t have to feel defeated or depressed. Despite difficult circumstances, loss, and lack, there is good news.
It is resurrection weekend as I write this. The Easter message isn’t about bunnies and chocolate. However, the chocolate is a bonus, especially dark chocolate. The message is new life.
Jesus died on the cross and rose from the dead. The resurrection of Jesus was the death of death; we can live beyond the grave. We get to enjoy our lives here on earth in the meantime. Before you take a dirt nap, make sure you bless everyone with the gifts and talents that were put in you for a purpose. Shocking but true.
The Word of God says in 1 John 3:2, “Beloved, now we are children of God; and it has not yet been revealed what we shall be, but we know that when He is revealed, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.”
If you are a believer, this is good news. Your loved ones who died, if they were believers and you are too, you will see them again. Think about it, they aren’t just a part of your past, they will also be part of your future.
Look at your life now. Reflect and resurrect your dreams. It is the season of spring. Spring to life. Make this a new beginning. Wipe the slate clean. Get a fresh vision of the new you. Most people know they can do more and be more. Write down your vision, goals, and dreams.
Let God breathe new life into you. It’s not too late. Know this: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Be grateful, have faith, and celebrate not only this Resurrection Day, but every day of your life. Hold your loved ones close. Make memories. Treasure every moment. Leave a legacy.
Spread the Good News. Flood the gates of heaven. If you haven’t experienced a true, personal God encounter, all you have to do is ask the Creator to reveal himself to you. We all need a savior. There is no greater love. You get to choose. Now you know the way, the truth, and the life. Let Jesus be your GPS. Your journeys and destinations will be the best.
What I know is I once was lost and let go of God. That caused intense pain, destruction, and hurt to me and many others. God didn’t give up on me even when I gave up on myself. Since then, I have forgiven myself, reinvented myself, and am back in the arms of the One who created me. I encourage you to live the life you were born to live.
Take the next step. Write your story. Speak your story. Evaluate and discover what you want your life to look like. I can show you how to get there. Message me for more details. I appreciate you. I celebrate you. Thanks for being here.
Love and Blessings,