Lori Bruton

Author, Ghostwriter, Writer, Blogger, Speaker, Coach

THE ONE TRUE LOVE

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As I write this, many of you are celebrating Valentine’s Day with your true love. Others may be in a toxic relationship or have let go of one. Let me talk to you about the most toxic relationship of all.

Has your heart been broken? Did someone make promises and say they loved you and you were the only one for them? When we hear those words, we want to believe they are true. Sadly, there are many who will only play with your emotions and infect your heart. Their motives are not pure. Yes, it hurts DEEPLY.

What if the closest toxic relationship is staring you right in your face? It’s the one you see when you look in the mirror. Who do you see? YOU. You see you. Are you “The One” having a toxic relationship with yourself?

Fear, self-sabotage, and self-hatred may be your blockers. Let’s look at those a bit closer. Fear blocks love. I don’t just mean sharing your life with your true love. First, what are your fears? Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of not enough finances, fear of loneliness, fear you will never be enough? Identify it and know that fear can be overcome or at least learn to do things afraid.

I don’t know about you, but this is a verse I relate to often:  Romans 7:15, “I don’t understand why I act the way I do. I don’t do what I know is right. I do the things I hate.” That brings me to self-sabotage. We allow criticisms and judgments from others and ourselves to us hold back, procrastinate, and not believe we can live the life we are designed to live.

It’s possible that fear and desperation cause you to make decisions that do not line up with what’s best for you. Les Brown said, “Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”

What about love? Proverbs 19:22 says, “What a person desires is unfailing love.” Do you feel unloved or unlovable? Look to The One who loved you first. The One who designed you for greatness. The One who will never leave you or forsake you. The One who will never abandon you. The One who died for you and rose again to give you life.

He speaks to you in Song of Solomon, Chapter 4, saying, “Invite me, and I come. I stay until dawn breathes its light and night slips away. You’re beautiful from head to toe, my dear love, beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless.”

 

Let Him embrace you and love you. Then, you will learn to love yourself and love others.

Who is The One? His name is above all names – Jesus.

 

Do you need guidance in getting more love and balance in your life? It would be my pleasure to help you. Message me and check out this option. http://bit.ly/liveoola

Much Love,

Lori

7 Ways to K I S S

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KISS – Keep It Simple, Sweetie

A kiss is sweet. If you want more love, give more love, especially to yourself. It sounds simple, right? To love and be loved is in our nature. Most of us desire to live a happy, fulfilling, simple life.

Living a simplified life in today’s world can be challenging. We are bombarded with information overload, distractions, cramming too much into our schedules, giving attention to digital devices that suck our time and energy.

Maybe you feel that you haven’t accomplished enough each day. Or, maybe you accomplished a lot, but you are exhausted. Is what you’re spending time doing worth it? Will it matter in the long run? If the answer is YES; keep doing it. You’re on the right track. If the answer is NO, take a moment to decide what does matter to you and your future that will leave a lasting legacy.

Maybe you’re not busy enough and each day slips by leaving you in a state of defeat and disillusionment. Could it be that you are overwhelmed? Overwhelmed just means you don’t know what to do next, which can be coupled with overthinking. What can you do to overcome this dilemma?

7 Ways to KISS:

  1. Stop pursuing perfection and pursue PEACE.

  2. Change your physical state by standing up or going outside; breathe deeply.

  3. Break down big tasks into smaller ones; set a timer. If you like variety, spend small chunks of time alternating activities.

  4. Instead of go, go, go until you collapse; take breaks and rest.

  5. On the flip side, too many breaks or long breaks may paralyze you and keep you stuck. Find the balance that works for you.

  6. Get help. Maybe you think you have to do it all alone and figure everything out by yourself. Who is willing and able to collaborate with you? The right help will empower you and them.

  7. Be present. Enjoy each “NOW” moment. Past and future thoughts can rob our present moments. Of course, treasure the past and learn from it. Pursue and plan for the future. Mostly, enjoy what you are doing this moment.

I am enjoying writing this blog for you. Let me be totally transparent. I admit I was consumed with overthinking mode. It’s important that I write words that add value and help you. I realized I wasn’t keeping it simple. How silly, right?

A complicated, bittersweet KISS may feel like this:  Knotted, Isolated, Self-Sabotage, Stuck.

Emotional Knots are tied to emotional wounds that rob your freedom and ability to grow. Staying Isolated can keep you separated from where you long to go and what you plan to achieve. Self-Sabotage conflicts with our thoughts and behaviors causing procrastination. This is a block to our success. When we are blocked, we are Stuck and cannot move forward. This type of KISS doesn’t sound enjoyable, does it?

Pucker up, Baby. This is the kind of KISS that will make you soar and you’ll want more. Kindness, Inspiration, Smile, Spontaneity.

Kindness is warm and tender, which is a welcoming relief in this harsh, cold world. Fill your heart and soul with Inspiration and motivation so you have enough for yourself and give inspiration to others. Put a Smile on your face to brighten your countenance. It makes you feel better and blesses others. Spontaneity is freeing and removes inhibitions. Some of the best experiences are unplanned and spontaneous.




Much Love,
Lori

Allow yourself to lighten up, enjoy life, and Keep It Simple, Sweetie. As my Grandpa used to say, “Apple pie without the cheese is like a kiss without a squeeze.” Eat the cheese and embrace the sweet life. May you receive the best Hugs and KISSES.

 

Thanks for sharing this intimate, authentic time with me. Please share ways you KISS (aka Keep your life simplified.) Did I make you SMILE?

INVISIBLE NO MORE

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I have been silent long enough.  No more staying in the shadows.  I decided to be brave and vulnerable and share my story with you.

For most of my life I felt invisible.  So, I stayed in my shell and kept quiet.  I was taught it wasn’t okay to speak up or interrupt.  Daring to interrupt was the only way to interject since I often couldn’t get a word in edgewise.  Still, no one heard my voice.  I thought my voice didn’t matter.  Guess what?  That was a LIE!

For a long time, my desire was to write a book.  Writing is my passion.  I asked myself was it possible and how do I make it happen? 

Every voice matters and so does your voice.  I speak mostly from the written page.  Writing is a great way to gather and complete my thoughts without being interrupted, hurried, or being talked over.  Why am I telling you this?

ANNOUNCEMENT: It’s possible and my book is ready!  http://bit.ly/PreOrderBookNow

Let me share an excerpt with you from my book, Hole to Whole:

When I got home from school, Mom was often visiting with the neighbor as they sat at the kitchen table.  I stood silently by her side waiting for permission to speak.  Not being acknowledged, I began to wonder if I really was invisible.  I would then disappear into my room.

People enjoyed my quiet, gentle, caring nature.  Being a good listener and having a nice smile were compliments I received regularly.  That was nice, but I knew I needed to come out of my shell.  Like a turtle, I slowly began to develop better communication skills during my adult years.

The way I was programmed from past experiences required rewiring my thoughts and beliefs.  All I know is I didn’t want to stay that invisible girl any more.

Have you ever felt invisible or that your voice is not heard?  Have you ever wanted to write a book?  You can relate, right?  I appreciate your being here as I share my journey of how I turned the dream of writing a book into reality.  There are many twists and turns to my story; stay tuned.

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